sister's marriage

[j2starshine]

Hey guys,

My sister is in an unhealthy relationship. It is way complicated, like any relationship teetering on the edge of divorce. She has two kids and is trying to do what's best for them. He is pushing for a divorce, has already talked with a lawyer, but she has no money, moved in with my parents and is looking for a job. Please pray for peace, guidance and for her husband and his lawyer for God's hand in all this.

j2

[birdnerd]

There's a free service for such situations, or at least there was 15ish years ago. I think it's called Legal Aid that might help her out. I didn't have kids or joint property, which made the divorce easier, but they might help her if they're still around.

[beckyminor]

Sorry to hear about your sister's troubles, and I'm especially sorry for the kids, who get caught in the crossfire of these kinds of situations. I pray the Lord's miraculous hand on the situation, and may the best possible outcome coalesce quickly.

[metalikhan]

Lifting them all in prayer, j2.

[j2starshine]

thanks guys. My sister did talk to legal aid, but they told her there was a six month wait. I don't know what she will decide, but the more I'm finding out about the situation the more I'm realizing the craziness of it... This guy is off his rocker.

anyways, I really appreciate your prayers. I really want to be supportive of my sister since she has been very isolated but I have no clue what to do or say, especially about the hope we have in Christ. We are on the opposite ends of the country, but I've got some ideas like little care packages of sorts or something through out this process.

thanks
j2

[almarquardt]

Sometimes the best way to show Christ's hope and love is through what we do, and not what we say. I like the idea about sending her care packages. Perhaps if you invited other fellow Christians to send her things for both her and her children? I would be happy to help, so if there's anything in particular they need I can send either direct or through you, PM me.

[morganlbusse]

Care packages are a great idea. And send stuff for the kiddos. I have went through two divorces as a child and it totally turns your world upside down. And pray. I know for myself, knowing someone cares enough about me to really pray for me makes the burden feel lighter.

[j2starshine]

Oh, wow. Thanks for the offer, almarquardt. I'll get back to you on that. Thanks morganlbusse, I kind of forgotten about the impact on the kids. I'll see what I can do. He served her the divorce papers last week, so it's official then. But it looks like it will be brutal and messy, rather than a mutual-what's-best-for the-kids approach my sister wanted. Thanks for ya'lls prayers.