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Post by korora on Mar 20, 2010 19:29:08 GMT -5
Note: I am using pseudonyms for all involved.
"Jaina" is engaged to "Veovis", who is very abusive. At "Eilonwy's" birthday party last month (to which he was not invited, BTW; Eilonwy's place was supposed to be a safe house for Jaina), he also attacked Eilonwy and is currently trying to drive a wedge between Eilonwy and Jaina. And there seems to be an unwritten rule in the fire department Veovis works with that you stick up for your buddy, right or wrong. "Fedorin" could stop him, but Veovis has some sort of hold over him.
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Post by morganlbusse on Mar 23, 2010 12:48:33 GMT -5
Sounds like your friend needs to break that engagement and run far, far away! A man who does not treat a woman with love and respect does not deserve a woman.
And if there is physical abuse involved, the police should be involved. Too many times people think its only happening to them when in reality, there are probably more victims and it takes someone finally speaking up.
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Post by journeyman on Mar 23, 2010 18:54:52 GMT -5
I agree! She needs to leave as soon as possible and without alerting him to her departure. Sometimes victims feel they need to explain their reasons for leaving to their abusers. That is totally unnecessary.
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Post by journeyman on Mar 23, 2010 18:56:06 GMT -5
I will pray that she will have the courage and wisdom to do the right thing.
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Post by Christian Soldier on Mar 24, 2010 12:50:17 GMT -5
Prayers away!
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Post by Kristen on Mar 28, 2010 20:05:50 GMT -5
Morwena is right. Eilonwy needs to call the cops. Prayers all around. Please keep us posted.
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Post by metalikhan on Apr 13, 2010 10:02:56 GMT -5
Still praying for all concerned, korora.
I grew up in a household in which there was violence. Even when dad stopped drinking and the physical violence dissipated, he did not stop the bullying behavior until near the end of his life when he finally accepted salvation. Over a half century of abusive behavior was washed away by Christ's blood; yet the consequences of it are still felt by members of my family who have not yielded the hurt and turmoil to Christ.
If mom had known he was abusive before their marriage, she would not have married him. God can make even a bad situation work for the good and for the glory of His kingdom; but I tend to think He had something different planned for the gifts He gave her if she'd been more aware of His will for her life.
If your sibling's friend is a follower of Christ, I hope she is taking to heart the counsel to get away from this abusive person and not enter into a marriage covenant with him, for her own sake, for the sake of her child, and for the sake of following God's will for her life.
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Post by korora on Jun 28, 2010 17:16:03 GMT -5
Update: The whole family has used Eilonwy as the target of Jaina's anger, and Jaina has flung years and years of friendship into Eilonwy's face. I still don't understand why Jaina's whole family has thrown Eilonwy over. And I'm guessing Veovis still has Fedorin over a barrel; blackmail, I think.
Eudyptula albosignata
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Post by morganlbusse on Jun 28, 2010 18:45:59 GMT -5
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Post by newburydave on Jul 17, 2010 11:29:39 GMT -5
It sounds like a clear case of spiritual oppression and bondage. Satan delights to mix things up like this within families.
These people are in chains of bondage. We need to pray specifically that God would strike the chain
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Post by newburydave on Jul 17, 2010 11:46:48 GMT -5
I'll pray.
When everyone involved seems to be conspiring with the abuser, including the woman being abused, it looks like a symptom of spiritual oppression and bondage.
Spirits of this kind of bondage are rampant in the world today. Until God strikes the chains of bondage off their souls nobody will behave rationally.
So let's unite in prayer that God will deliver them from this spiritual bondage, and root out carnal hooks of selfishness by which the Devil has gotten such a strong hold on them.
Let's plead 2 Cor. 10:4-6 as a promise.
SGD
dave
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