My Wife and more

[Christian Soldier]

Please pray for my Wife and my mother. It seems that they are in some sort of odd, to me, competition... with me as the object. My loyalties must, and always will, lie with my wife, but she doesn't see that, neither does my mom. Let me back up a bit.

You see, I'm an only child. My mom feels that we are very close and always have been. I hate to point out that neither of my parents can tell me when my birthday is. This situation stems largely from that. I feel that my mom blames Jamie, my wife, for the separation that's occurred between us. I blame the fact that mom has gone so far as to tell Jamie that she's not saved and to lie to our faces.

This situation is truly beginning to irritate me. I love my parents and want nothing more than for them to continue to be a part of my life till they pass on, but with their current behavior, they'll be lucky if I don't get a restraining order against them just for some peace and quiet in my life.

What's funny is that my mom can say some of the darndest, most hateful things to Jamie... then she'll send a giant box billed with stuffed animals and loving cards for Jamie's birthday. I just don't get it. I really, truly don't get it.

Please, pray for resolution here. At this point, I'd take anything, just for an end to this.

Also, my internet scheme has hit several snags that will slow me down a minimum of two weeks. I'm also being told that my current dish may be too small to do the task I need of it. I can attach the hardware to a bigger dish, but I don't know the mechanics of it.

This, btw, is why I've been away for the last week or so. I've been spending all my free time working this issue. Tomorrow, I have to track down the chaplain and discuss this Sunday, which means that I won't be able to spend the time needed to work this issue.

These delays, while aggravating, are not something I cannot survive and, frankly, take a secondary place to the previous request. We urgently need your prayers and, more importanltly, God's hand on the situation.

Thank you so much, everyone, for your prayers, and for the mountain of support you've shown me. What I do would, literally, be impossible without each and every one of you.

Thankyou -- Glyn

[torainfor]

If you hadn't signed your name on the bottom, I'd a thought my husband wrote that! (What is it with the Anomaly and parallel universes today?)

I "am" Jamie, so I pray for her, that she'll have patience and grace and spiritual maturity that encourages peace and helps your mom want to follow suit. As soon as she has all that down, though, I'd appreciate if she'd call me and tell me how she did it!

The way you talk about Jamie, it's obvious you adore her. Something I've noticed with both my husband and his dad is that they've grown up acting in a certain way, sacrificing certain things, to keep their mothers happy. When they get another woman in their lives, they have a hard time making the switch--and they don't even realize what they're doing. (For instance, any hope I have of saving money for a new fridge can be instantly undone by a call asking why we don't visit more.) Just a thought; if Jamie points something out, consider if you're making a decision based on what's best for your relationship or if it's just what you've always done.

Anyway, I feel for you and for Jamie. Prayers away.

[Jeff Gerke]

How hard it has to be for you to be far away while your wife is getting picked on. Grr!

Sounds like there's some dysfunction there and it may not be easily remedied.

Praying for God's intervention. Only He can get through to us sometimes.

Jeff

[Christian Soldier]

Hmm... good point, Jamie. Maybe I won't have to get a restraining order after all! Seriously though, I feel better about it already and, I hope, that God will see us through. I suspect that this is one of them "growing" times in our relationship. For some reason, that word now is synonymous, to me, with "pain", "frenzy", "ouchies", and the phrase "it hurts, it hurts" Yet after words, in the immortal words of Ken Titus, "He won't do that again, now will he" In other words, we've learned and adapted beyond all.

[torainfor]

Ken Titus as in Chris's dad? Another guilty pleasure!

[pixydust]

I'm an only child and I think that's a huge part of it. My mom has had a devil of a time letting go and she happens to be very controling. My husbands mom is also very controling. It can get a bit hairy at times, and I've been labled the evil daughter-in-law, bad mother of grandchildren, mean wife, and all other kinds of disaproving things. You can respect your parent but still draw boundaries in the sand. You, as the husband, shouldn't just side with your wife, but say: enough is enough, when appropriate. Because when kids come into the picture it just gets worse--trust me.

I'll be praying for her--your wife--this must be very stressful for her. Mother-in-laws of you boys can be taxing on us place-taker wives.

[Christian Soldier]

The good news is that my Dad worships the wround Jamie walks on, and Jamie's family feels the same about me as far as I can tell. So really there's just that one sticking point.

Anyhoo, Jamie hasn't mentioned this issue in a while. Actually, I dropped a line here and *pow*, she hasn't mentioned it again... which worries me somewhat. Hopefully she's not "suffering in silence" or some such. Hmm... either that, or she's spying on me here. Good thing, if so. It gives me yet another means of lavishing her with praise >

Ah, as for the other. My internet scheme will never work. It turns out that the US and everywhere else have very different ideas as to what kind of signals should go to space, so my US made dish will not work over here. I've been forced to side with the enemy and purchase internet from the folks here, may they rot in Heaven and suffer great pleasure. Grr... at least I have my free time back. And a router that I could go on and on about, but won't.

Thanks guys for your prayers, concerns, and advice. God bless you all -- CS